Susan Narjala

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Hospitality Is Different Than What We Might Think

Here’s a topic we don’t typically get around to at church: Jesus enjoyed food. We catch glimpses of it all through the gospel narratives.

When only one small picnic lunch was available to feed a multitude, He didn’t send the people away to fend for themselves. Instead, He multiplied it and fed a crowd of 5000 (Matthew 14). He did it again for a gathering of 4000 hungry people (Matthew 15).

He attended weddings and dug into mezze platters with hummus and olives and figs (I assume) and drank wine.

He invited himself over to Zacchaeus’ house — for dinner. (Luke 19)

Before He washed His disciples’ feet at the Last Supper, He ate the Passover meal with them (Matthew 26).

When He appeared to a roomful of disciples after His resurrection, you know what He did? He asked, ‘Hey, you guys got anything to eat around here?’ (or something similar) (Luke 24: 39-42)

When the disciples came back from a night of fishing, He grilled fish for them for an al fresco breakfast on the beach (John 21).

There is no question that the theme of food is sprinkled through the Bible.

As a man, Jesus ate because He needed food to live. But He also used food to invite people into His circle and as a way to be let into theirs. We don’t see examples of Jesus eating alone. Instead, we see food being a shared, communal experience.

Jesus reclined at tables with saints and sinners. And He sets a gracious and glorious example for us to follow.

I believe many of us have a natural inclination toward hosting people and cooking for them. But, perhaps, the ministry of gathering around a table has been discounted and deemed ‘less important’ than the types of service that reach larger audiences like preaching or playing in a worship band. Yet Jesus shows us otherwise. He went out of his way to eat with his friends, with strangers, with outcasts, and even those who may have considered Him an enemy.

It wasn’t about the food — meals at the time were simple, possibly even frugal by today’s standards. It was about the open invitation and the warm welcome. It was about creating a sacred space for others to be included.

When we open our homes to friends and those on the margins, we invite them to fellowship with us.

That word — ‘fellowship’— has slipped into Christian jargon as a synonym for ‘eating together’ — but it’s far more significant. The Hebrew word for fellowship, koinonia, means ‘to have in common’ or ‘to share.’

When we gather around a table, we share a part of our lives with each other.

When we linger over a meal, we break barriers and cultural divides.

When we invite people into our homes, we represent the heart of Christ who invites us to His banqueting table.

Let me confess, though, that when I invite someone home, it can turn into a production. I fuss over the menu days earlier, buy the ingredients well in advance, craft my dessert about 12 hours ahead of the planned event, and then invest substantial time making sure there are enough appetizers and beverages and that the bathrooms are adequately sparkly.

Hosting people or true hospitality is about putting them at the center of the story. Entertaining people is when I want the spotlight and yearn for the applause.

But that’s not hosting people, that’s entertaining people. There’s a difference. A big one. Hosting people or true hospitality is about putting them at the center of the story. Entertaining people is when I want the spotlight and yearn for the applause.

Of course, I’m not dismissing that we invest thoughtful planning into a meal. I’m not sneering at the idea of picking up our homes so our guests can find a spot on the couch.

But, if you’re like me, may we challenge ourselves to open our homes with the intent to bless and not impress. May we throw open our doors even when the kitchen is a glorious mess and the food is a bunch of leftovers thrown together with a creative twist. This isn’t about perfection. It’s about being present for others, even if it means eating off disposable plates and drinking from chipped cups. It’s about creating rich experiences with the simplest of fare. It’s about the sacred experience of connecting over a meal as Jesus did with His disciples and His dissenters.

May we learn to practice the grace of hospitality. Like the Lord’s invitation to His banqueting table, may the banner over all we do be love.


A version of this article first appeared on Indiaanya.

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  • Maggie Thomas

    What a beautiful distinction between hospitality and entertaining guests, with reference to the Bible. Susan, you have brought to my memory a favorite hymn ‘ Jesus has a table spread…’

    • Susan Narjala

      Thank you, Dr Maggie. I didn’t know that song, but I just looked it up and the lyrics are so beautiful. Thank you for sharing them. – Susan

  • Rebecca Pearson

    Oh agree 100%
    Ministering to people at the table is intimate, personal and so powerful! ❤️

  • Fellowship is about love and what better way to share love than around a table.

    • Susan Narjala

      So true! It’s way more than just the food. Blessings, Susan

  • Thank you for this beautiful reminder. I have struggled to be the “perfect hostess” for many years and often feel like I fall short. Others however talk about how I am a wonderful hostess. My sights are set in the wrong place. In two days we will host 40 people in the heat and today I choose to relax and begin praying for each who come – that the Lord would shower them with His peace as they come to our home. Thanks again. Perfect timing!

    • Susan Narjala

      Thank you for stopping by. And I needed the reminder too 🙂 That’s a lot of people you’re welcoming to your home. I pray that it would be a special time where each person who comes in through your doors would sense the presence and peace of Jesus. Blessings, Susan

  • Very interesting point about Jesus and food and never eating alone. Part of my ministry has been hospitality for 8 years. I’m a messy person and so is my family of 4 boys. We clean up but the clutter remains. People still appreciate the welcome and love. Many of our homestay students have never experienced a family meal and it is the highlight of their time with us. Thank you for your writing.

    • Susan Narjala

      Hi Loriann. That is such a wonderful example of hospitality. I love that you said people appreciate the welcome and love. The food and the “ambiance” we create are such minor factors. What matters is the warmth people experience. A long way to go for me on this front. Blessings, Susan

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